• fizzle@quokk.au
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    7 days ago

    The term “work wife” is so gross.

    She was a colleague, and now she’s a friend. It’s fine to have colleague’s and friends but when you start referring to them as some kind of pseudo romantic but professional counterpart it’s just weird.

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        7 days ago

        Yeah any time I’ve heard the term work wife/husband, it was implied they were hooking up.

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      7 days ago

      Work wife refers to more than just a colleague. Friend or bestie would fit, however. Work wife describes a particular type of friendship that is quite common for people working closely together who don’t get romantic.

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        7 days ago

        This is an argument in semantics.

        Perhaps you define this relationship as platonic, but a non-zero portion of the public think it implies something else.

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          7 days ago

          You can tell by the fact that straight men never have a “work husband”

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          I’m in the latter category. “Wife” of any kind involves close emotional connection and probably sexy times.

          You can say that a work wife doesn’t include sexy times, and maybe that’s true for almost everyone using the term. But close emotional connection?

          Friends are fine. Close friends even. But if you’re relying on anyone besides your wife/spouse for close emotional connection/support, you’re begging for trouble.

          How did your wife become your wife in the first place? Likely your emotional connection started first, then the sexual. The same thing can happen with your “work wife”. It’s a risk I’m not willing to take.

          Maybe none of this is true for people using the term, maybe they just mean a good friend at work who they click with and can therefore get a lot of work done efficiently together. Ok good, great even, but I recommend using a different word to describe it, because “work wife” implies something else to most people.

          Or at least that’s how I feel about all that 🤷‍♂️

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            7 days ago

            You’re right. I’ve seen people who use this term eventually have an affair more than not. I think people taking offense have a work spouse and know they have these feelings.

            Spouse implies sex. We aren’t being a way to assume these things.

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      6 days ago

      If she is meeting him out of work, going to dinner, “cackling” whatever that means.

      There’s something in it for her too. Ain’t nobody that naive

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    5 days ago

    Take a work wife (which is already a psychotic term), remove the “work” part, and act like you invented this new type of relationship…

    What are you even talking about!?

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      7 days ago

      This is describing having a girlfriend except the girlfriend is married to someone else.

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    The expression “Bestie” is pretty weird in Germany, as it is pronounced besty-uh and literally translates to “wild animal” or “monster”. “Larissa was a real “Bestie” in bed last night; I’m completely bruised and scratched all over. Glad I have my work wife!”

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    6 days ago

    I mean you can just call her a “very good friend”? Or “one of my best friends”. I am sure this will have a positive impact on your real wive’s psychology too if you are married.

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    most of my colleagues are women, I get along with them great. We occasionally socialize a couple of times a year outside work. I would be mortified for anyone to think they were anything more than purely colleagues.

    like I wouldn’t really be happy to think of them as friends - not that they’re not lovely people, just that I have my friends who are friends, and these are nice people I work with.