• Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
    13·
    9 days ago

    Calm before the storm…

    A lot to think about from yesterday (and thank you all for the responses). The links that melba posted yesterday (peoples’ experience w/ care giving) were eye opening, was up until 3am reading them.

    I think I’m going to withdraw and tone it down a bit.

    I will do food and the basics but the meltdowns are going to be largely ignored.

    If bro and SIL and bub are coming down this w/e I will not be doing anything extra. I don’t even care to ask if they are.

    I suppose this is what emotional burn out is. Had it before w/ work but this is a different beast.

    • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
      8·
      9 days ago

      Hey man. You can only do so much before it becomes a real problem. From the sounds of things, you’ve gone above and beyond in trying to help.

      Other people need to do their part now. I understand how difficult this must be, but stepping back is the right thing to do ♥️

    • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
      5·
      9 days ago

      I had similar with MIL

      refusal to accept assistance, complains, is mean, makes drama, even lies to other people about me

      I was always just looking after Miss Seagoon’s Nana , no more , now I do nothing, offer nothing, don’t even listen

      I don’t even get angry , it all just goes in one ear and out the other

    • melbaboutown@aussie.zoneOP
      4·
      9 days ago

      Yeah. I think you have hit burnout. Sorry for feeding into the urge to fix everything by posting recipes and stuff.

      I think it really is time for outside help to be brought on board instead of just you (whether they like it or not) because often caregiving does all get demanded from one person and can turn monopolising and even abusive.

      Maybe consider a caregiver support group even if you don’t continue at the previous level because caregiver burnout is a different beast. I never had any support or training but having either might have helped me look out for myself and recover better.

      • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
        6·
        9 days ago

        Sorry for feeding into the urge to fix it

        Oh please don’t be sorry. You have been so very helpful.

        I think the urge to fix it for me just needed a reality check. I think I’ve come to terms that the best I can do is slow cognitive decline and not let the little things get in the way of that. I can’t roll this ball back up the hill but I can slow it which you have extremely helpful with.

  • Force_majeure1234@aussie.zone
    10·
    9 days ago

    BP monitor has been returned. Rather unpleasant but not too bad. It did wake me up a few times overnight but I managed to fall asleep quickly after so I’m feeling ok. Now I need to do new blood test before meeting with Dr for results. I’m no expert but it seems like my resting BP is like 155 over 85 at the moment which is no good

  • Catfish@aussie.zone
    7·
    9 days ago

    Ok the emergency services are doing well today: Mandatory carrot rations

    Wombattery

    Bin chicken survey

    Horse rescue cart

    Hot air balloon division

    Oodies for pets

    Sandwich gun

    Traffic directing geese

  • SpinMeRound@aussie.zone
    7·
    9 days ago

    Got done by an April Fools before 8am 🤦‍♀️ (at least I hope it was a prank)

    Arrived at work on time to find my most disliked truck driver had blocked most of the car parks because ???

    Am cranky pants. Need coffee. And moar sleep.

  • melbaboutown@aussie.zoneOP
    7·
    10 days ago

    (Non-joking, serious answers please)

    I’m considering a cheap carpet cleaner or steamer and going over options… Kmart has a multipurpose steam spot cleaner around $150 plus some other options and Bunnings and The Good Guys have options around the $200 mark. Which is maybe a doable savings goal.

    Anyone have experience with using carpet cleaning machines in this price range? Were they terrible? Any advice or budget recs?

    I’m tossing up between something shampooey to get rid of the stains and grubbiness and potentially using an antifungal cleaner/actual disinfectant in it to kill ringworm spores. Or maybe I should choose something with steam to help kill the spores and also kill any future moth, flea, or bedbug infestations.

    I was thinking of buying outright because hiring the Rug Doctor machine is such a hassle without a car, has a time pressure, and is $50 a pop when ringworm reinfestation is likely.

    • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
      4·
      10 days ago

      I have a bissell carpet cleaner, it just uses hot water. It was about $250 when I got it 5 years ago. The carpet shampoos are expensive but excellent. I use the special for pets one, safe for pets and gets rid of pet smells and pet germs. I use very hot tap water in the cleaning mix and it works well.

      you can just spot clean with it too , no need to do the whole house

      also I do rugs with it , just have to do it on a tiled section in the house

      in the long run it has been worth every penny and does a great job.

      the one I got is now 299, that’s the one you want

        • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
          3·
          9 days ago

          also, if you get a much cheap cleaner you can still use the high quality bissell carpet shampoos 👍The pet one especially

          the main thing is to have a strong vacuum to remove the cleaning water

  • melbaboutown@aussie.zoneOP
    6·
    9 days ago

    Goblin cat just came inside, checked out the back room, took one step onto the bed and tried to jump on a visitor’s lap 😳 He definitely is or was a pet.

    I had laundry and other things that were moved into the back room (which I normally keep closed) so I’m going to be washing and sanitising all of that again plus the carpet in there. God I hope adequate food and parasite treatment helps his body kick this suspected ringworm on its own. Because the cream isn’t reliably applied and I can’t get the prescription pills. Trying to think if he’d let me sponge him with lime dip twice a week. Probably not.

    The carpet foam is ok, o-phenylphenol… which is antifungal but I emptied the can on one application and that wasn’t even a full room. And phenol… that might be toxic to cats. Edit: Oh shit it is. It was dry when he walked on it but no more of that.

    I’m just going to buy the Kmart steamer I can afford right now. It has good reviews at least. https://www.productreview.com.au/listings/kmart-anko-spot-cleaner

    I just hope it has the ability to vacuum the water up repeatedly to dry it, or a strong vacuum so it doesn’t leave much. Really not wanting to overwet the carpet.

    spoiler

    Crying because he’s not Melbcat. Stressing because I’m opening a can of worms. I’ll have to move and wash all her things.

    • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
      8·
      9 days ago

      No pressure, no obligation, and grief is a complex, multi-faceted pain that no words can adequately describe.

      So with all kindness, love, and care

      the cat distribution system may be trying to help you in it’s own weird way.

      Your love for Melbcat is not dishonoured or diminished by liking another cat. The heart is infinite in it’s love, and is not depleted by loving more.

      I’m thinking of you and sending you my love 💜

      • melbaboutown@aussie.zoneOP
        3·
        9 days ago

        Thanks Spud.

        It feels like the cat distribution system has glitched because it’s way too soon. I have no idea if I’d be able to keep him. I feel like I’m delaying my grief. I’m massively disrupting my life. And the ringworm thing/uncertainty are both sending my ocd crazy.

        I just hope it works out ok 😔 I’m just trying my best

    • Taleya@aussie.zoneEnglish
      5·
      9 days ago

      I know how you feel, we had the same thing with Max’s fleas…he’d been sitting in Misha’s favourite places.

      All of them

      • melbaboutown@aussie.zoneOP
        5·
        9 days ago

        He’s been eating from her bowl that I couldn’t bring myself to remove and my thoughts are dominated by dealing with him so it feels like it’s overshadowing her 😢💔 I might remove her beds so I don’t have to see him use them. It’s all too fast.

        I feel horrible. All I can say is that I saved her and did the best I could for her. And now all I can do is try to help him.

        • Taleya@aussie.zoneEnglish
          7·
          9 days ago

          i know, washing everything because of fleas just felt like the most ignominious way to remove her scents.

          but they knew what she smelled like. They knew she was here. and that’s…something.

          • melbaboutown@aussie.zoneOP
            5·
            9 days ago

            Yeah, it really sucks. It’s like the current situation has literally swept and washed her away.

            But your boys caught your girl’s scent and I have a fur clipping and whiskers from mine

      • melbaboutown@aussie.zoneOP
        2·
        9 days ago

        I had name ideas but realistically I don’t know if I’d be able to keep him even if I made that choice to. I’m trying to work out for sure if he’s chipped

  • Mert@aussie.zone
    6·
    9 days ago

    Salt gun update: Baking soda mixed in with the salt did the trick. Thanks for the tips.

  • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
    6·
    9 days ago

    Psych appointment went really well which is great. Got a lot of old crap off my chest that I usually ignore.

    And I’ve hit the rebate limit so it only costs me 40 bucks for the next 7 sessions.

  • Catfish@aussie.zone
    5·
    10 days ago

    Boyo has yet again delivered present super early. I really don’t understand this compulsion. These gifts are not temperature controlled or the size of an elephant, stash it in the back of a bookcase for a week?!?!

  • tombruzzo@aussie.zone
    5·
    9 days ago

    Fuck, I just realised this video I was meaning to edit is just a series of photos. Instead of shooting a video, I just took a photo - twice. The iPhone camera app always defaults to photos after locking your phone, so now I have nothing on this video I was planing to do.