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Cake day: February 3rd, 2026

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  • Whether or not they have a pacemaker is something we would usually find out by asking the family, nurses present at removal, etc. If none of those people knew, it’s usually pretty obvious. The battery sits on the chest just under the skin and it’s hard to miss. Just two or three incisions is all it takes to remove. It’s easy to get shocked disconnecting the wires if you aren’t careful though.

    Cremation is quite permanent and mistakes can’t be resolved easily, or cheaply, so cremation cases are inspected VERY thoroughly before going into the retort.


  • I had to remove a few pacemaker batteries when I worked at a crematory. We threw them in bin in the processing room and until they ran out of juice, they’d beep like crazy periodically. They’re made like that so that while the person is alive, they’ll know when it’s disconnected.

    It was drilled into our heads that the crematory retort would be RUINED if one of those things went in with the person.

    edit: typo and more context.







  • I am 42, I own my house, and I still have to ask my parents for help sometimes. This economy (if you’re also in the US) is shit, and that affects all of us.

    Living at home is nothing to be ashamed of. If you feel like it’s holding you back or preventing you from doing anything you want to do, that might be something to think about. Otherwise, if you’re content, who fucking cares? I’d be more concerned with how much your family appreciates you for pitching in to take care of your brother than I would be about some rando’s opinion about your living arrangement.

    I understand that there’s a stigma around it, but a lot of that is pro-capitalist, pro-overconsumption propaganda that people have internalized and they’re criticizing people who haven’t bought into it.

    I’m beginning to realize that for us neurodivergent people, our ability to look at what everyone else is doing and say “No, thanks. I’m not doing that.” is a significant advantage for us.

    “I don’t want much in life. I don’t want a lot of money. I tend to reject the hustle and bustle.” Sounds like you’ve already got that figured out. Approach other people’s opinions of you with that same energy.





  • I was one of those people who knew my lifestyle was unhealthy, and turning it around was always just one week away. The diagnosis of type II felt like a loss of agency. Like it was no longer my choice to cut back on, or to cut out sugar.

    Once the initial shock of diagnosis and grief over all the foods I’d lost settled down, the truth was clear. I had made the choice. The choice to open every single one of those sodas, the choice to go with convenience over health. The choice to kick the can down the road, and I still had the choice to diet, or die slowly.

    Not gonna lie and say my diet is perfect now but, according to my NP, my labs paint the picture of someone successfully managing diabetes. I know I still have some work to do though.