I’ll be the one to say it: who is actually using leashes with their shibari suspension?
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a_queer_one@lemmy.worldto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•HELP! How do I help educate my son about his body when I know nothing about boys?
34·1 year agoPlenty of good advice in this thread.
I’m gonna shout out the boy version of the book “what’s happening to my body?”
https://www.amazon.com/Whats-Happening-Body-Book-Boys/dp/1557047650
It was super helpful to me in puberty, even with trusted male figures. It’s written from a non-judgemental, information focused space. It also let’s him has some way of privately seeking knowledge that isn’t just whatever he finds on the internet
I like the joke. However, I just gonna say, sounding really isn’t intended to be a painful activity when done in a kink context. Despite looking crazy it’s intended for pleasure not masochism
RIP Drizly
a_queer_one@lemmy.worldto
News@lemmy.world•Crowd boos Rob Schneider off the stage when he started telling anti-trans & anti-vaxx jokes
11·2 years agoI think the way you applied it showed some nuance, as you talked about it in non-absolute terms. However, when applied broadly it can be harmful.
If we always assume that homophobes and transphobes are queer and trans, then we assume that queer and trans folx are the ones hurting themselves. It’s a small jump from there to say that closted lgbtq people are the source of lgbtq people’s trauma, which is both harmful and false.
a_queer_one@lemmy.worldto
News@lemmy.world•Men with 'toxic masculinity' are more likely to make sexual advances without consent, study finds
21·2 years agoNot sure where you think I claim to know the true path. I can assure you I don’t, even just in my relationships. I was mentioning an option, if you wanted something, that seemed relevant based on your words. I’m confused how discussing folks who have a different view of consent make them cultists.
But the thing about consent being key is that you’re more than welcome to reach your own conclusions. You do you.
a_queer_one@lemmy.worldto
News@lemmy.world•Men with 'toxic masculinity' are more likely to make sexual advances without consent, study finds
5·2 years agoJust want to say I’m sorry your potential partners are turned off by consent seeking. I definitely wouldn’t be with my partners if they didn’t find consent sexy.
I can promise you that the actual bdsm community cares a great deal about consent. Negotiating is a critical skill in that context, especially if engaging in stuff that might look nonconsensual. If you like your sex kinky and consensual you might seek out your local kink scene.
a_queer_one@lemmy.worldto
Technology@lemmy.world•"Coercive climate" of Silicon Valley's AI boom fuels "troubling" sex parties, researcher saysEnglish
302·2 years agoWhat the actual fuck.
CNC as a kink is fine, but to be done healthily requires really solid negotiation skills by all parties. Ain’t no way in hell you can implicitly consent just by going to a party. Even the most edgey edge-player (someone who does risky bdsm play) I know would nope the fuck out of that.
Fucking awful.
a_queer_one@lemmy.worldto
The Right Can't Meme@midwest.social•Thank God Thank You Allied Powers
4·2 years agoAh, the classic right-wing technique of taking pictures from Folsom Street Fair and putting them next to pictures from Pride to imply they are the same thing.
Fascism is notoriously difficult to define. There’s a huge amount of contention on it among historians, but one definition I like is Rodger Griffin’s. In his definition the core ideology of fascism is
(i) the rebirth myth
(ii) populist ultra-nationalism
(iii) the myth of decadence
I think the MAGA movement pretty transparently meets all 3. The rebirth myth is literally in its name, the movement is pretty openly populist and ultra-nationalist, and decadence is how they describe their enemies (e.g. their rhetoric around trans and queer folk).
a_queer_one@lemmy.worldto
memes@lemmy.world•Spinosaurus Aegyptiacus wants good things to happen to you.
2·2 years agoNot about Spinosaurus but this song is pretty much the same “dinosaur as mental health tool” vibe (well, synapsid not dinosaur)
a_queer_one@lemmy.worldto
News@lemmy.world•Alex Jones must pay $1.1 billion of Sandy Hook damages despite bankruptcy - court
2·2 years agoMinor correction, Dan didn’t testify. He was present for some of the depositions of Alex in the TX case, being there to help guide Mark Bankston’s questioning. Mostly mentioning cause Dan was pretty clear he didn’t want to actually testify



Don’t sell Italy and Japan short.
Mussolini invented fascism, and did population-scale deployment of chemical weapons in Ethopia… Imperial Japan are absolutely an all-time G.O.A.T of horrific war crimes.
Their behavior was egregious, and that’s why they sided with the nazis.