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Cake day: June 29th, 2024

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  • In my opinion what you are describing is way too fast. If someone did that when dating me, I would run.

    But I’m not part of your situation, so my opinion doesn’t matter. What matters is that it works for the two of you. You are fine with it, so that’s covered. So my only advice would be maybe check with him if he is comfortable with it. Or be prepared to deal with the consequences if he isn’t.



  • It’s not necessarily as simple as “just observe his behavior”. Sure, if this is someone who dates young women routinely and on purpose, the guy might show obvious red flags. But even if his motives are “innocent”, the dynamics with even much smaller age gaps are usually very unhealthy and unequal, at least in my experience and especially when one partner is not at least in their mid-twenties. Often it’s something they only realise much later.

















  • As a teenager I never wore dresses, skirts or nail polish because I didn’t want to be seen as a girly girl. I was into science and books and that didn’t seem to fit the vibes.

    I’m glad that I figured out in my twenties that being in a male-dominated tech field doesn’t require you to dress masculine or wear nerd shirts. If you’re into that, that’s great, but it’s also okay to wear dresses or put on make up if you work as an engineer or a software developer.