37- My spouse realized they were nonbinary, which made me do some self examination and realize I wasn’t as cis as I thought I was.
~30. I can’t be more precise, It was a long process realizing that what I am falls under LGBTQ. Maybe. I’m still afraid of being excluded.
hey, I see you also have that self doubt that comes free with “finding shit out about yourself in your 30s”.
I always thought I was “a little bi.” Growing up in the '80s in a religious household, I repressed tons. I didn’t realize that I was fully bisexual, or consider myself really “LBGTQ” until my forties.
12 or 13. but it took until I was 18 before I admitted it to myself and came out.
the 90s were a different time.
That’s a pretty good timeline for the 90s, all things considered
Yeah, I was pretty lucky. I knew/ know a lot of people who had it much worse.
I discovered I was good at flirting at 17. I also discovered that as soon as a girl starts making out with me or getting handsy I lose interest. My brain is like “yay, validation, we won, okay let’s go get a snack.”
Took me over a year to learn that asexuality is a spectrum and that there are other people who like sex in theory but can be repulsed by (or indifferent to) it in practice.
Ayyyye similar! Ive always been a bit flirty but just have no interest in sex. I didn’t admit I was ace until 36 or so. I tried many ways I just don’t care lol
I haven’t tried too many times, but I’ve discovered it’s kind of just interesting to see how different people like different things.
And hey it is nice to meet another similar ace. Most aces I meet online or otherwise are completely sex repulsed. Then again I suppose I haven’t met many aces online or in person lol
6 or 7 - I experimented with kids my age, and it ‘clicked’. But I would struggle with that concept until I was about 12, when I decided ‘fuck this religious bullshit’. I started dating guys when I was 13, I was out to my friends the same year, the general population when I was 15, and finally my family at 21. Though for my family it wasn’t how I planned. I thought I was going to die soon; my original plan as a teen was to tell them on their death bed, mostly because of fear of physical violence. My family was very not-accepting growing up and through my teens. I lived in fear for all of my teenage+ years, many times not sleeping to make sure I wasn’t attacked in my sleep.
But yeah, at a very young age I was like ‘boys are cute’ and ‘wait a minute…’
Okay I got to ask, at 6, 7 my only focus was teenage mutant ninja turtles, how in the hell are you experimenting at 6, 7?
I lived in a neighborhood with a ton of kids that were +/- a year from me, and there were several that shared my curiosity. It was rather… common? For the chat to shift from Playstation and Nintendo games to other topics, just as long as the parents weren’t around. One thing led to another and hey this is a new experience…
Over 2+ decades, people moving away and starting their own adult lives, I lost contact with most of them. But I’m still in touch with two of them: one is now trans, the other is a fellow gay furry.
Thanks for the reply! I guess parents being out of sight would eventually lead to that.
I realized I was bi around 21, and probably around 25, I knew I was something other than a cis man. I didn’t know quite what, and examining that question too deeply was scary. Nonbinary felt right, but I actually started presenting more and more masculine, I guess as a way of covering up and trying to deny what I realized just after I turned 29 - I’m actually a trans woman. It’s been such a relief to understand that and be able to start my transition
I’m LGBTQ+? Oh good.
Between 12 and 14.
13
30s no, I won’t elaborate
Hard to say. On one hand I’ve always known though I didn’t have the words for it. But I also grew up in a fundamental church, so it was a sin and I denied it. Didn’t formally admit it until 24 though.
I was 18 when I realized I felt the same way about Ro Laren and Maria Hill as I did about any men I thought were attractive but it wasn’t for several more years that I realized that when most people were attracted to someone they actually wanted to do something about it
Around 15-16. I used to browse 4chan during it’s heavy trap phase and realized I don’t mind if they have a penis as long as they look like a girl
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Always. I was confused when my parents tried to tell me I was only allowed to like boys.
