@foodandart - eviltoast
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Cake day: October 7th, 2025

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  • Im still financially dependend on them…

    As long as they’ve got that leverage over you, they’re likely not going to change as quickly as you’d like - if at all. Be aware of this fact…

    Hard truth here.

    AS soon as you can, jump from being dependent on them. Yes, it’s gonna blow donkey balls and be miserable for a few years, until you get your working/adult feet under you, but the sooner you cut that cord the better you will be.

    In the long run, you’ll be glad you moved on with your adult life and gained financial independence.

    The other thing, is that as you step into your new life and you’re in the hustle of making money and scratching out a life - the angst over your folks will fade into the background. You’re gonna be so busy making ends meet you won’t have time or energy for parental drama.

    God’s honest on that.

    The first steps out into independence are the hardest. Grit your teeth and leap.

    You’ve got more strength than you know… you got this.




  • Oh, I’ll check that out! Part of why I like the Naturespace recordings so much is that many are straight field recordings. There used to be an iOS ap called Ambiance that had the ability to record and share one’s own soundscapes. there were thousands of files available to download through the app and it was maintained until Apple dropped the 32-bit downloads from the AppStore. I got the best ones I could and have it still on a handful of older devices. Got to crack it open at some time and excise the sound files as it’s only a matter of time before the devices get spicy pillows and fail.













  • Ohhh yeah. I’m down to one close relative (the rest have died in the past 12 years - it’s been a dozen years of shit, actually) and husband and I are having our first non-family filled Christmas. Tomorrow, I’m gonna get up and throw a roast in the slow cooker, give husband his gifts and chill and play video games. Maybe even nap in the afternoon.

    From the first year I shacked up with the boyfriend, (whom I eventually married) we travelled to my aunts, uncles and grandparents homes each and every year. The trifecta was one year we had Thanksgiving dinner at in-laws at noon sharp, at 2:30 we were on our way to grandmother’s in Connecticut for dinner at 5, then at 7:30 we drove up to Maine for 10:30 pm Thanksgiving dinner with auntie (they were the night owl side of the family) in southern Maine.

    It was amazing and exhausting and one of the most culinary diverse Thanksgivings I’ve had.

    Overcooked dry turkey at in-laws, prime rib at grandma’s and turkey and pork golumkis at aunties… Fun times… but yeah… Tonight is nice here just pecking away online with the radio in the background singing it’s holiday songs…

    It’s glorious.